People Pleasing & Boundaries

You may find yourself saying yes when you want to say no, avoiding conflict, worrying about disappointing other people, or feeling responsible for how others feel. You may spend a great deal of time thinking about other people's needs while losing touch with your own in the process.

These patterns can be frustrating because they often persist even when you recognize them. Understanding why can be an important part of creating change.

People-pleasing often develops for understandable reasons. At some point, prioritizing other people's needs, avoiding conflict, or keeping the peace may have been an effective way to navigate important relationships. Over time, however, those same patterns can leave you feeling resentful, overwhelmed, disconnected from yourself, or unsure of what you truly want.

Therapy offers an opportunity to better understand these patterns and the role they may be playing in your life. As that understanding develops, many people find it becomes easier to set boundaries, communicate their needs, tolerate disappointment, and develop greater trust in themselves.

The goal isn't to become less caring. It's to care for yourself with the same consideration you give to others.

Getting Started

I provide virtual therapy for adults throughout New York and New Jersey.

If you're curious about working together, I invite you to schedule a free 15-minute consultation. We'll discuss what's bringing you to therapy, answer any questions you may have, and determine whether working together feels like a good fit.