You may know exactly what isn't working in your relationships and still find yourself repeating the same patterns.
You want closeness but find yourself accommodating, withdrawing, or repeating dynamics that leave you lonely. Maybe you struggle to set boundaries, avoid difficult conversations, lose sight of your own needs, or repeatedly end up in relationships that leave you feeling disappointed. Even when relationships look different on the surface, the underlying dynamics can feel surprisingly familiar.
Often, these patterns develop for understandable reasons. The ways we learn to relate to other people early in life can shape how we experience closeness, trust, conflict, and vulnerability as adults. Understanding those patterns can be an important part of creating change.
Therapy offers an opportunity to better understand the patterns that show up in your relationships and the role they may be playing in your life. As that understanding develops, many people find it becomes easier to communicate their needs, set boundaries, make relationship choices that feel more aligned with their values, and build more fulfilling connections with others.
The goal isn't to blame yourself for past relationships. It's to understand yourself well enough to create different ones.
Getting Started
I provide virtual therapy for adults throughout New York and New Jersey.
If you're curious about working together, I invite you to schedule a free 15-minute consultation. We'll discuss what's bringing you to therapy, answer any questions you may have, and determine whether working together feels like a good fit.